Recovery and healing

Some people are fascinated with sociopaths... I am not one of those people.

To me there is nothing fascinating about a person who is evil. There is nothing special about a person who hurts everyone that is “nearest and dearest” to them. Maybe people are fascinated because they understand so little about these ruthless individuals. I doubt they have been the victim of one or targeted. If they were, they would not be so fascinated with them. 

Sociopaths are bad people. They have bad intentions. They are aware of the misery they cause, yet they don't give a damn. 

I don't like to call myself a victim of a narcissistic sociopath. I prefer to think I am a survivor.

It has taken some time to heal, and recover, but I like to think I have come a long way from where I was about 7 years ago. None of it has been easy, there was a time when I believed that nothing would ever be “ok” again. I was completely hopeless. I felt that I didn't even know who I was anymore. I was so lost I even questioned my own morals, wondering what did I do, there has to be an explanation why someone would do these awful things to me. 

I have suffered. I admit I have felt like nothing mattered anymore. Because of my bad decision to marry a snake, my life would never be happy, I would never find peace.

What happened to me? 

I have felt just about every emotion one can feel. I was depressed, then I was angry. I was exhausted mentally and physically. I was hopeless. I was scared, alone, and living in fear. 

I have been through it all. I have had to really look at myself, my real self. I didn't always see what I liked. What my ex sociopath did isn't important to me anymore. The things I lost are no longer important to me either. 

What matters most to me is the here and the now. I continue to take things one day at a time. 

Once I stopped feeling like a was a victim and I started looking at myself, I learned that I was responsible for myself and my feelings. It is up to me to establish boundaries with people, and walk away from people and situations that make me feel belittled and taken advantage of. What has happened in the past is over and done. Can't change any of that. But I can learn from it all. No matter how much I do not like what I have been through, I do believe there is a bigger learning experience in it. Eveything happened the way it happened because that was the way it was meant to be. It really is what it is. 

Accepting that everything that happens, happens so for a reason, and even though I don't know what that reason is, I have to trust that it is the way it is suppose to be. 

Trusting that everything is the way it is suppose to be, is what made me realize that I do not have to be a victim anymore.

Being a victim was a not a choice, but being a survivor is. 

I know now I AM NOT THE PERSON I use to be. I am much more than the person I use to be. I am stronger now, I have lived through something that forced me to look at myself, my flaws, my insecurities, and as ugly as they were at times, there was a reason I had to go through this. 

Sociopathic Parents destroy children and the ex partner

Recognizing that you are in a relationship with a sociopath is so important. Sociopaths have certain patterns of exaggerations, blaming, and distortions, that are obvious early on in a relationship. 

This can save you years of emotional and psychological damage that the sociopath will cause you. 

It is never easy to end any relationship with a sociopath.  

But a relationship is much less complicated to end than a marriage!

Marrying a sociopath is a life sentence of hell, the sociopath will try to keep you in legal battles for years. Sociopaths LOVE going to court. They are convincing and skilled liars. They have a fearlessness about them, that they are able to stand up in front of a court of law and make up one lie after another, portraying you as the crazy out of control spouse, and they are the victim. All while remaining cool, calm, and collected. 

When normal people face going to court for any reason they are usually nervous. Rather it be for a traffic violation, or for child custody case. Either way the sociopath is completely comfortable and at ease in any situation, that the rest of us would feel tremendous anxiety. This is because we have something the sociopath DOES NOT HAVE — “emotions” and genuine feelings.

It's important to recognize patterns of abuse before committing to a disordered person.

The last thing you want is to bring Innocent children into such a dysfunctional environment. 

Please listen when I say NOTHING good can come out of marrying the sociopath – ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. 

The marriage will end. The sociopath will use the children to manipulate, harass and basically make life feel it's not worth living. They will so malicious things just to make sure their ex partner is miserable. 

Children who have a sociopathic parent never get a fair chance in life. They will always suffer at the hands of their vindictive, abusive and  unstable sociopathic parent, who will always  be in and out of their life. Sociopaths hate responsibility, so taking care of children isn't that appealing to them, but having children as trophies is appealing to them. The sociopathic parent is  constantly interfering and disrupting the child's life.

In the children's earlier years the sociopath disrupts their life only to manipulate and control the other parent. Sociopaths use the children as a tool to manipulate to get what they need or want. Or to just to make problems and cause suffering. The sociopath wants their ex to be miserable. They use the children to make sure that this happens. 

When the children become adults the aging sociopath has burned all their bridges and does not have the abilities to manipulate others anymore (as their looks have withered, and they have posse off to many people - and no one is buying their shit anymore. So the sociopath uses their children to get what they want. Still using guilt as their weapon of choice. They will usually tell the an adult child how they took care of them for 18 years provided them with a roof over their head and a supportive parental figure. Basically making the child feel as if they owe them. 

Fortunately most children of sociopaths are very aware of the pain that the dysfunctional parent caused them and their supportive parent. They are able to see right through the sociopathic parents billshit, deception and manipulation. They usually choose to have no contact and no relationship with the sociopath when they become adults 

But unfortunately not all children of sociopaths turn out to be okay. Many become manipulated by the sociopathic parent. The sociopath wants to hurt you through your children. So will always seek full custody. So they will always be in control. Living with a sociopath full time can take its toll on a child's mental state. The children grow up with many psychological issues because sociopaths are abusive individuals, rather it is neglect or verbal and physical abuse.

They don't actually care about the children. 

They care about the control they have over the children, to hurt their ex. 

Sociopaths are verbally and even physically abusive to everyone, the ex and children are not an exception. 

Children suffer from low self esteem, shame issues and depression when raised by a sociopathic parent

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Confronting The Devil

 

Anyone who has ever confronted a narcissistic/sociopath knows the damage that they are capable of. 

These types of disordered people are revenge seeking people, will explode, exploit, and destroy anyone who does not agree with them. The sociopath fears being exposed for who they really are. So anyone who will confront them, poses as a threat to them.

Anyone who has attempted to get answers from the sociopath has surely experienced their wrath.. The sociopath will never answer you with the truth. 

Sociopaths will do everything they can to discredit whoever dares to confront them. They will make damaging false accusations about the victim. 

In my experience, all the accusations the  sociopath makes is actually what they are doing to the victim..

All accusations are projections. 

Rather than admitting to having a problem and dealing with it, the sociopath and the narcissist will scapegoat their target with false accusations based upon their own psychological issues, failures, and weaknesses.

They only know how to hurt others in order to make them look better. It is how they cover up their tracks. Vilifying the victim by making them seem like the “crazy” person, or the abuser. 

Being married to a sociopath or narcissist, you are likely to be accused of having an affair, financial irresponsibility, and other less serious accusations. The sociopath will accuse you of being insecure, needy, and ‘unstable’. All are just more projections they are putting on to you based on their own insecurities and short comings  

This is how they break down the victim so that the victim begins to question their own sanity and doubt their own thoughts.

Abusers manipulate their victims by belittling them in subtle ways. Sociopaths and Narcissist are the most verbally abusive people. Their words are the most efficient weapon in convincing their partner that it is not them who have the problem. They make their partners feel incompetent and worthless. 

Abusive people are so delusional that they eventually start to believe they are the victim of their partner who they have abused for so long.  Some even convince their partners/victims that they are lucky to have someone like “them” who will put up with their psychological problems. Sociopaths are masters at brainwashing their victims. The sociopath /narcissist seek to erode their targets self esteem, making them feel worthless, stupid and unworthy of respect.

This is why people who have been in relationships with these monsters have a hard time developing healthy relationships after the narcissistic sociopath. They have no confidence, no self worth, they feel ashamed of who they are. 

This is how the sociopath wants their victim to be. This is how the sociopath maintains control even after the relationship is over.  

It may take years of therapy for the victim to begin to heal, and see that they are not any of the horrible things the sociopath has accused them of being. 

Spciopaths and Narcissist are so EVIL. The only way to heal from the abuse inflicted there must be NO CONTACT with the abuser EVER AGAIN. 

If there are children involved, you should seek professional help on how to deal with the abuser. Usually having a third party to communicate with the abuser is the only way not to fall into their manipulation. The sociopath will use the children to manipulate and hurt you. The third party will be able to decide what information is beneficial for you and what is not. 

Sociopath and Narcissist cause so much irreparable damage to anyone they have a relationship with.

So when children are involved it becomes even harder if not impossible to separate totally from the sociopath. 

Psychopath vs Sociopath vs Psychotic

People always want to know what is the difference between and psychopath and sociopath? 

In my experience sociopaths and psychopaths are the same thing. There has been some confusion with the term psychopath and sociopath. 

The original name for this disorder was “psychopath”  but most people and the media confused it with “psychotic". The difference in a person being a psychopath and a person being psychotic is that a psychotic person is truly unaware of what is really going on around them, they have a chemical imbalance in their brain. 

When a psychopath is fully aware of what they are doing when they harm someone. When someone who is psychotic is not fully aware of what they are doing is wrong.

Example - If a psychopath kills your dog, it is because he wants to hurt you, and knows by killing your dog will hurt you. 

If a psychotic person kills your dog, it is because he believes the dog is evil, and the dog is trying to kill him, and take over the world, so he thinks he must kill the dog before the dog kills him. 

As you can see the psychotic person is not in touch with reality and has literally lost his mind, and is hearing voices and seeing things that are not real. The person is suffering from psychosis and some sort of chemical imbalance such as schizophrenia, and hallucinations. 

The psychopath is not hearing voices or seeing hallucinations. The psychopath is just evil and has no conscience. The psychopath does horrible and evil things because he intends to hurt and cause another person emotional harm and psychological damage 

The name was changed to sociopath in the 1930's in attempt to lesson the confusion between a psychopath and a psychotic person. 

Recently the media again caused confusion to the public and made misperceptions that all sociopaths were vicious serial killers, like Ted Bundy, Jeffrey Dahmer, and Charles Manson. 

The truth is that a majority of sociopaths are not violent, and do not kill (kill you physically, yes they may kill your spirit and soul) And they will destroy your life, they are all pathological liars, con artist and have no moral compass. Some are capable of murder, but they rarely do murder a person. That's what makes them so hard to detect, is that they are able to look as is they are normal. They just go through life, flying under the radar, making people around them miserable. They leave a path of destruction (financial and emotional) everywhere they go. 

So now psychiatrists and psychologists call the condition “antisocial personality disorder” (ASPD). 

Sociopaths may look like us, but they are not like us. Sociopaths are ruthless. Normal people are not “ruthless”. 

Ruthless is basically someone with no pity or compassion for life, all forms of life. 

The best way to protect yourself from a sociopath is to avoid him or her. And refuse to have any kind of contact or communication.

The problem is — spotting a sociopath. They blend in, and are able to pretend to have compassion and care. By the time you realize that you are dealing with someone who is ruthless, callous and conscienceless, they have probably already caused irreparable damage to you.  

The most dangerous of the sociopath is the female sociopath, she could be the soccer mom, the pta parent, the blonde hair, blue eyed, sweet woman who most people have no idea what her life is like behind closed doors. But her children and family. She is charismatic and wants everyone to believe she is the best mother ever. And will do anything for her children. But the truth is, she is able to convince others she is doing all these wonderful things, when she is doing nothing. She has minions who support her and do her work for. They will pick up her children, take to the doctor, they will also lie for her and do what she tells them to do.

Men are more common than women sociopaths. But do not ever believe that the men are more dangerous. That is not true, the female sociopath is just as dangerous. If not more because she will use the fact that she is a woman, to hide her true self. Because as a society, we view all woman as mothers, care takers and nurturers. So we are less likely to believe a mother can be capable of such disgusting and horrific acts on others...

 

The Cyberpath Psychopath

Narcissisit's and sociopaths in our world make it hard to trust others, especially when we have been victimized by one. A victim feels alone and isolated. When the relationship goes sour the sociopath goes on a campaign to destroy your reputation, and make your life so miserable and difficult. They hope you take your own life. The victim has to keep up their guard and protect themselves from the abuse and the trouble and pain that the sociopath/narcissist can cause. 

Being in an intimate relationships with a sociopath can cause severe emotional damage to our soul. Victims are often physically assaulted and emotionally beaten and injured. 

With all the new age technology sociopaths use the Internet to do the majority or their dirty work. They are online bullies. They are able to use a veil of anonymity to harass, threaten and stalk their victims. Sociopaths torment their victims by impersonating them online in a unfavorable manner. They may post vulgar pictures of their victim. 

They are creative in how they torment their target. Sometimes they pretend to be the victim. All while vilifying the victim. They are trying to get others to hate the victim - so the victim feels they do not have anyone to turn to. 

Fortunately there are now some state and federal laws against cyber-stalking and harassment. Unfortunately they are not always enforced and can be difficult to get enforced. 

The more knowledge we have on sociopaths, psychopaths and narcissist. The less likely we will become victims. The road to recovery is a long one, and sometimes it feels as if the horror never ends. If children have been brought into the relationship. Then the hell last longer. The psychopath will use the children as a tool against you. To hurt you. To harass you. To bother you. To cause you pain and suffering. 

Remember the psychopath HATES you more than they love their children. The children are seen only as the psychopaths weapon to hurt you more with. 

The book Snakes in Suits  describes;

...the psychopath has an ulterior-- some would say "evil" --and at the very least, selfish motive. This victimization goes far beyond trying to take advantage of someone on a date or during a simple business transaction. The victimization is predatory in nature; it often leads to severe financial, physical, or emotional harm for the individual."

Sociopath ruin Christmas

Evil people have no ethics, no empathy and no compassion.  Sociopaths and Psychopaths and narcissist are evil.  They are characterized by a conscious and concern for others. They lack human emotions, they are ruthless, mean, and cruel. 

Evil people are hollow inside. Seeing a person in psychical or emotional pain does not bother evil people. Some even enjoy the suffering of others, and intentionally cause the suffering for their own sick and twisted pleasure. 

It's like there is no soul in side of them. They may look human, but their actions and mannerisms, make them more like monsters. 

Unfortunately these evil people need others to fufill their wants and needs. They depend on others to get want they want. They don't care how they get it. As long as they get it and are in control. They love keeping the people who they are in relationships with on their toes. They love keeping them doubting theirselves. They are evil 

Sociopaths don't give a shit. No use on wasting anytime trying to tell them how you are hurt. They truly truly DO NOT care. They believe the rules don't apply to them. Sociopaths think they are entitled to do what they what to whoever they want. 

Nothing good can come from having a relationship with a sociopath. In an intimate relationship, they are cheaters and will rob you blind. In friendships they will manipulate you and stab you in the back. If they are a family member, they ruin every holiday, birthday and they will use you and make life horrible. 

I use to LOVE Christmas. But I dread it now. Even with no contact the sociopath still tries to ruin every holiday. Especially my birthday, Christmas and Father's Day. It's so much superficial drama and bullshit, the sociopath has taken away the love that Christmas is suppose to be. 

It's All About Control

A sociopath is a liar and a user... They lie about everything. They use people as and throw them out like garbage. 

Plain and simple. 

This is old news though. We have known that sociopaths do not have a conscious and they have No sympathy. 

Seeing others suffer doesn't bother them. They could careless about children who are starving, homeless people, abused animals. 

But they sure will pretend to care, when they are trying to hook you in to believing they are a good person.

Truth — they don't give a crap about ANYONE but themselves. 

Sadistic sociopaths enjoy the suffering of others, so much so that they do intentional things to see living beings in physical and emotional pain. It's disgusting. 

They do not know, or want to learn, how to care about someone else. 

They are excelled liars and are very convincing. They are able to convince others that they care and are compassionate —this is what makes them so dangerous!  

Once they think you have you convinced that they are good people, thats when they begin to set you up to rely on them. They want you to be totally dependent on them. Once they feel you are dependent on them, that is when they manipulate you in a way that isolates you from friends and family. Convincing you that you only need them. “They are your soulmate”

Once they have you brainwashed and dependent, they begin to mistreat you, verbally abuse you, so that your self esteem is destroyed. They are masters of making others feel inferior and even “crazy”

You become their victim. You are confused so you try to understand them - that make them want to hurt you more, they do not love you - in fact they hate you even more.  If you try to leave them, they make your life even worse. They will turn people against you. Play the victim, making you look like you are the one who is obsessed and psychotic and out of control. They tell others, they are worried for you, and you are unstable and they want to help you. THAT IS BULLSHIT. They are trying to make people feel sorry for them, because they have “deal” with such a sad pathetic and insecure person... 

It IS NOT JUST YOU THEY WANT TOTAL CONTROL OF. 

Their ultimate goal is to control everyone they know. 

They want to control the world. But for now they seek to control what is in their evil grasp. They want to control their exes, and their exes new partner. They want to control their family members.

Example - They want to control their mother and father and siblings. If they have a brother, they want to control the brother and his wife and their children. If they have a sister they want to control her and her husband and any children they have.

They want to control their parents. As their parents become older, the sociopath will manipulate their parents into controlling their money. They want control of the estate.  

Then once in control of all their parents  money and assetts they will not give their siblings any money that is owed to them from the estate. If they feel they are losing any control of a situation or a person, or if the person may expose them (the sociopath) for what they have been doing, the sociopath will go on a smear campaign to destroy the persons creditability and reputation. And will smile while doing it. 

The sociopath loves this kind of drama, it is just excitement for them. While you having Anxiety and are stressed and upset. It is like a walk in the park for them. They are not affected at all by any thing you do to them. In fact they do what they do to bait you to get that response. They enjoy being cruel, and keeping you on your toes.

BUT THE TRUTH IS — NONE OF IT IS REAL. They WERE LYING AND THEY STILL ARE! Rather they are lying to you or some other poor victim – they are LIARS - and they will always do what they do BEST - LIE! 

One trait I have noticed about sociopathic individuals (especially female sociopaths) but males also... 

They want EVERYTHING that EVERYONE else has. 

**They're very jealous of material things. 

**They have a huge sense of entitlement. 

The sociopath will tell you that money and materialistic things are not important to them. (Sorry folks lets get the laughing out now) BWAH HA HA HA HAAAA HAAA!! 

Ok... One has to laugh about that statement because it is so is so ridiculous. The sociopath cares ONLY about money! They have no feelings of love for anyone. They are hard wired to hate and take. They aren't concerned with the poor, the sick, children in foster homes or the elderly.

Their only purpose on this earth is to have more than Suzie has. Drive a nicer, more expensive car than Joe has. SOCIOPATHS ARE ALWAYS TRYING TO “Keep up with the Joneses”. 

The difference between A Sociopath and the Joneses, is that the Jones actually work hard for what they have. THEY MAKE AN HONEST LIVING TO HAVE the NICER THINGS IN LIFE. The SOCIOPATH earns NOTHING... They steal, con, scam and deceive people to get what they have.

It is why the sociopath continues to do horrific things to people. Most of the horrible things the sociopath does is not done to strangers (all though they will if the stranger has something they want) Most of the horrific things they do are to their family, children, spouse, and their many ex spouses. Their horrid acts will even extend to their ex spouses new husband or wife and their children - that the sociopath has no relation to.

They are truly RUTHLESS, HATEFUL, and EVIL PEOPLE. They are the people in our world that do not want PEACE. They don't want to help people in need. 

They wreak havoc on the lives of anyone and everyone they come into contact with. They will steal every dime you have. They believe in their twisted, evil brain that everyone “owes” them. That is their sense of entitlement issue...

Their sole purpose on this earth is to get more and more. They suck people dry. They drain your time, your energy, your life, your wallet, and your bank account. 

A SOCIOPATH ONLY loves themselves. If you have ever been fooled by a sociopath, don't feel bad, because you are not the first, and you will not be the last.  

Just REMEMBER what you have been through, and what you experienced. LEARN FROM IT. 

You now have the wisdom to help others, but also remember that you can bring awareness of a what a sociopath is and does. But you probably can't convince someone that the person they are with is a conscienceless, heartless sociopath. They will have to learn on their own, the same way you learned. 

A sociopath will exhaust every fiber in your being. It takes time to get yourself "well" again. It takes time to trust again. *Time is the key word here* Time heals all eventually. 

JUST NEVER BE FOOLED AGAIN. 

Sociopath's refuse to EVER leave their Victims Alone

Sociopaths, narcissist, and psychopaths are dangerous  parasites. If you ever want to be rid of these parasites – you must understand how they function. It is important that you see them for the evil they  are. Understand that they are soulless and heartless beings who has no conscience, no empathy, and they are capable of destroying you and your children. Most importantly KNOW THAT THEY WILL NEVER CHANGE. YOU CANNOT HELP THEM, they DO NOT WANT HELP, THEY DO NOT THINK THERE IS ANYTHING WRONG WITH THEM. They see anyone who cares for them as a weak idiot who they can manipulate and take advantage of. They are ruthless and will destroy anyone they can to get their way or sometimes just for their own enjoyment.

The sociopath will intentionally cause you problem after problem. They want you to feel mental confusion, question your self, and in general destroy your confidence and self worth. 

They refuse to leave you alone so you can move forward and live what's left of your life, that they sociopath hasn't stolen. 

You have to be able to put your emotions aside, and “stop trying” to understand them. You will never understand them, as long as you have a conscience and you care for others. For an empath it's impossible to assimilate and comprehend how another human being can be so evil and cruel to a fellow human. 

You must Always remember you are not dealing with a normal healthy human being. You are dealing with someone who has a defective soul. These people are spectacular actors, they put on an a show to others and pretend as if they are capable of empathy, love and concern. They are liars, cheaters, and cons. They do not know how to be honest and even make an honest living. They will always be involved in something that is scamming another person, causing harm (emotional or physical) to someone. 

Sociopaths, Psychopaths and Narcissist lack EMPATHY. 

They have No empathy for any kind of life. They are empty inside, and they will never experience life on a deeper level. The sociopath is so shallow and superficial, they really believe that their materials define them. They want to dress with name brand clothing, because that is the only way they can feel good about themselves. 

Normal people feel fulfilled by their children, their family, and their interaction with other people. Not the sociopath. The sociopath must knock others down to feel successful. Destroying someone else makes them feel “on top”. Especially if they feel threatened by someone. They seek to destroy the person, and usually the person has no idea what the sociopath is doing until the damage has been done. 

The best option when dealing with a sociopathic, narcissistic ex is to BLOCK THEM FROM YOUR LIFE! Never respond to them or give them a reason to talk to you. They will bait you and they are relentless predators. 

STAY STRONG

Short definition of a narcissist

Habitual, Compulsive, Pathological Liars...

SOCIOPATHS ARE COMPULSIVE, HABITUAL, AND PATHOLOGICAL LIARS.

A common trait of sociopath or narcissists is lying. They just lie all the time. They lie about anything and eveything.. A sociopath will lie about important things, and unimportant things. They lie about where they work, to where they live. They willl lie about there family, to the pets they have. They will lie about everything! 

Even if the truth would be more beneficial, and serve them better – they will still continue to lie. Basically if you know someone who is a sociopath or narcissist, you can bet that anything they have told you, was the opposite of the truth.  

Why lie about everything, all the time?!

Sociopaths lie because they hate to see others happy. This is why it is most unfortunate to have a sociopath in your family. As much as the sociopath hates to see their partner/spouse happy – they hate to see a sibling happy even more. So they lie in an attempt to misdirect the people who seem happy to them. It is a method they use to to covertly destroy you. A sociopaths goal is to convince their victim or target that everyone hates them, and life is difficult and unfair. 

 

Sociopaths have an uncanny way of finding your weaknesses, then using them against you. Sociopaths will put all their time and energy into learning their victims vulnerablities, and anything that their vicitm cares about, the things that they hold close to their heart, or whatever their vicitm has an emotional attachment to. Then once the sociopath thinks they have enough about on their victim, they will underhandedly and covertly sabatoge all of those things.

Rather it is something as simple as your favorite food. They will make sure you never eat that again. It may be that they all of the sudden the sociopath has discovered that they are deathly allergic to that food, and may say that just being around it could cause them to have to go to Emergency Room - and possible death - so you must never eat it again. 

If you have a nice vehicle that you value, and the sociopath has recognized this because knows you keep it clean and well maintained. The sociopath will do something to the car. They may scratch it with an object that is sure to leave it unable to buff out. They may even cut the brake lines, or cause other damage that will cost you money to have the car fixed. 

They will do small things to sabatoge your life and Large things to destroy your life.  If you are good with managing your finances and have a good credit score,  the sociopath will hide bills, take out small loans in your name, and create emergencies that will cost you more than you can afford. The sociopath will spread lies to your friends, your family and the community, so you will feel isolated and excluded and disliked.

The sociopath wants to make sure that you never feel secure, blessed, happy or loved. They try to make sure that you fail at reaching your goals, and you never get any of the things that you have hoped for and worked hard for.  

The sociopath causes their victim constant stress, usually without the victim ever knowing that they are responsible for all the bad luck and misfortune they have been suffering from. The sociopath gets enjoyment by seeing you suffer one disappointment after another. 

The victim sees any small act of kindness on the sociopaths part as relief from the suffering they have felt lately. The victim feels so hopeless that they begin to rely on the sociopath to ease their pain, because they victim has no idea that it is because of the sociopath that they are having this streak of “bad luck”.

The sociopath gives and then they sociopath takes away. The sociopath wants 100% total control over their victims life  and reality. Sociopaths and psychopaths want to know that they have so much power over you, that they could manipulate you into such despair, that you consider taking your own life...

That is just how sick and evil the sociopaths mind is. They don't have a conscience to question their actions or intentions. So they continue to wreak havoc and destroy anyone who knows them, enters their life, or cares about them. 

NO CONTACT !

No contact gives you the space and time to get your energy back into your life. It can be challenging at first as you may have to resist the urge to answer the phone or return an email or text message. You must get into the habit of policing your self for your own good. Imagine that you have two different aspects of yourself; A parent self and a child self. The parent self will have to police the child self to be sure she doesn't do anything that will hurt her. You know intellectually that breaking the rules of no contact will hurt the child so you stop her from doing so even though she is throwing a tantrum.

Making a decision to cut off contact with a narcissistic personality disordered individual, when leaving the relationship is an important part of your recovery process. The decision to initiate “no contact” is a decision for your health and sanity.

When you remain in contact you continue to engage in the relationship on some level and are still affected by the craziness and the dysfunction.  You will normally continue to be affected by the hot and cold behavior of these sociopathic narcissist, they will always try to pull you in and then push you away, and you will constantly feel confused and 

hurt. This sociopathic narcissist will continue to drain all your energy which results in depression and lethargy.

It is very hard to maintain “no contact” when it comes to the narcissistic sociopath. When they realize that you have decided to move on and you no longer are willing to play their game, they will continue to try to get a response from you. They will sound sincere. They may sound apologetic. They will always have a reason that sounds plausible are perfectly innocent to why they are contacting you. 

It is important that you not be taking in by all their efforts, because they really are not sincere and they are not apologetic. 

It is all an act in order to pull you back into their web of crazy. 

It is important to remember that they will never change. They will always be dysfunctional, deceitful, and the lying individual they have always been. They will always be evil. They will always blame everyone else for everything that has happened. They were never in their life take any responsibility for anything.

You are a thoughtful, kind, and empathetic person. You are compassionate and you care for the feelings of others. That is why  it is difficult for you to ignore someone and cut off contact with them, especially since that someone was a person that you once loved and you thought loved you too. As hard as it may be to accept, you must acknowledge and accept that they never loved you. They only  used to you, and when they got bored they moved on to what they thought was more “exciting”. And as twisted as it may be even though they have found something more exciting, they still want to control you. 

When you cut off all contact with them, you take your power back. They cannot control you if you have no contact with them. In order to move on and be happy you MUST TAKE YOUR POWER BACK, and stop giving them your power by falling into their trap they have set for you. 

The sociopath has drained your energy, love of life, confidence, self worth for long enough! No contact gives you the upper hand. You will start to feel better about yourself, and begin to smile again once you cut off all contact. 

Psychopaths are everywhere in life.

The term was first used two hundred years ago when doctors noticed some of their patients had no ethical sense, and couldn’t grasp that other people had rights. 

Psychologist and psychiatrists preferred the term sociopaths for a while, but have now returned to using the original term psychopath. In general terms psychopaths are cold-hearted, insincere, over-confident, irresponsible, selfish, and have little to no empathy for anyone. 

That lack of empathy, lack of caring, and lack of a functioning conscience, allows the psychopath to do awful things to others, only to advance their own cause.

The Psychopathy Checklist — devised by psychologist Robert Hare, is the tool most widely used to diagnose the psychopath. It shows that about one percent of the world’s population are what we might call “full-blown psychopaths” — by the way that’s around seventy million people....

Unless a psychopath  is dead, they might never leave you alone. Especially if you share any children with a psychopath. They feel that they have the right to bother, stalk, harass, and make your life a living hell — and they will use the children to do so. A female psychopath will turn your children against you if she has primary custody. A male psychopath will do the same, even if he is not the primary caregiver. Every chance he will get he will tell the children what a whore you are and all kinds of nasty lies.

Psychopaths do not care about how they destroy their children's sense of security and take away their right to have a normal home life. They only care about hurting you. 

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The OBSESSED Narcissist

The narcissist has a difficult time knowing what is real, and what is a delusional that they made up in their crazy minds..

As a DSM-IV trait, the narcissisit's need to fend off inner emptiness, feel special and in control, and avoid feeling defective. The narcissist can become so delusional that they are bordering on a fine line between their own delusions and what is actually real.  

As unhealthy this is for the narcissist, it is even more unhealthy for people in he narcissist life. And it usually will turn into to gaslighting for the narcissistic individuals family members. It causes them confusion, frustration, and delusional thinking...

A person trying to end a relationship or cut ties with a narcissist has a difficult doing so, because the narcissist becomes the person you always wanted them to be. Nice..but it is all an act... To get you to take them back so they can control and treat you like crap again. 

The narcissistic person becomes obsessed with their partner when the partner is not responding, and trying to have no contact. They are obsessed with getting the  CONTROL, they once had back. They can't stand the fact that someone has actually rejected them. Especially their partner, who they have viewed as weak and pathetic. They will not like the fact that you have made a good and healthy decision for yourself - which was to no longer be a part of their dysfunction! 

When the relationship is over, the narcissist can actually do become dangerously obsessed with their ex-partner.  

After failed attempts to get their ex back, the disordered narcissist will resort to stalking, destroying property, verbal attacks, ridiculous demands, and obsessive calling, emailing and obsessively text messaging. 

People with Narcissistic Personality Disorder confuse the intensity they feel with intimacy. They do not know how to have healthy, loving, and intimate relationships. 

Being in a narcissistic relationship is painful. Narcissist cheat, lie and treat their partners as if they mean nothing to them.  The relationship is built around infidelity, the narcissist huge EGO and control. 

(The narcissist can also be jealous and fear losing control but it has more to do with maintaining their narcissistic supply source)

The fact is, that there are some people who are just unable to mentally “let go” of their partner after a break up — especially if there were children as a result from the relationship.

It is difficult to end a relationship with narcissist. The narcissist will keep calling, keep visiting, keep arguing and trying to reconcile. All while still having sex with other people. THE NARCISSIST NEVER CHANGES, THEY WILL ONLY PRETEND TO BE WHAT YOU WANT UNTIL THEY GET THAT CONTROL BACK.

The non-disordered person may take the narcissist back a few times before they realize that nothing will ever become better. 

Once you end the relationship for GOOD with the narcissist, you may be followed, stalked, threatened, put downed, and called nasty names by your ex. 

When left unaddressed, in extreme cases the disordered Narcissist becomes obsessed  and it may progress to the point that they will use the children to get their ex to respond, and if those tactics don't work they may threaten to hurt the children. 

Narcissist manipulate their ex by using the children. But when that DOES NOT work. The narcissist becomes desperate and angry - they are willing to do whatever they must to make contact with their ex.  

The narcissist knows their ex loves the children, then the disordered person will attempt to hurt their ex by hurting the children. 

In extreme cases they will actually cause harm to their children. Even kidnapping the child (children) from school or by refusing to return the child after their visitation is up. 

Narcissist and Sociopaths have very many similiar traits. The sociopath is usually more ruthless in their tactics to gain control or get what they want.

Narcissist do Not allow their Ex's to Move On

Sociopathic narcissist will do horrendous things to others. They will lie, cheat and steal from their family, their spouses and their exes. Sociopathic narcissist will slander anyone's name who they feel inferior to, or threatened by. Threatened by meaning the other persons success, good looks, youth, and status. Especially in the work place or if a new person has entered the sociopaths exes life. 

When the narcissist shares children with their ex, and a new person enters the picture, the narcissisit immediately feels that the new person will be liked more than they will, by their own children. So the narcissist begins to try to turn their children against the new person in their ex's life. The narcissist is notorious for slandering others. Making up lies about the person to destroy their reputation in the community. The narcissist knows that by doing these things, it will cause stress in the relationship of the other person, and the narcissist hopes that will be enough to cause the person to leave.

The narcissist does not want their ex to ever move on with their life. They have a ridiculous expectation that they should be able to move on with their life, but their ex should stay alone and single forever. When their ex tries to move on, the narcissist makes it extremely hard to do so. They will attempt to sabotage the relationship by causing problems, creating stress, and spreading lies about their ex and their ex's new love interest. 

It takes a strong person and confident person to stay in a relationship with an individual with a disordered ex with narcissistic personality disorder, with sociopathic tendencies. 

When the narcissist needs cooperation from their ex because of children, the narcissist will pretend they have done nothing wrong, and expect everyone else to pretend that everything is bunnies and rainbows as well... They do not expect anyone will call out their bad behavior. No matter how Nasty their behavior has been — and the narcissist can be very NASTY! 

They expect bygones to be bygones, until the next time they don't get their every demand met, and go on the attack again.. Narcissisit may come off as "better than everyone else". It is only a mask to hide their deep rooted insecurities and jealousy of others. Most narcissist are very materialistic. They think they are entitled to the best of everything. Keyword - entitled. They believe they are entitled. It's an over sense of entitlement. 

The psychopaths intention...

Any individual who is being targeted is usually unaware of the psychopath’s true intention. 

Psychopaths also look for those who will “invest” in a relationship with them.  Usually the target feels that something is just not right and things may feel wrong.  However, in the absence of any solid reasons or evidence as to why things do not feel right, the relationships, whether romantic, business, or otherwise, will often continue.  The simple passage of time can further deepen the connections and perceived obligations to the psychopath.  

It may seem that victims are weak, but this is not the case.  Normal human vulnerability should not be confused with weakness.  Anyone has the potential to be targeted.  Psychopathic individuals do not appear to care whom or what they use or ultimately destroy.