THE ONLY WAY TO HEAL - No Contact Ever Again

Once you have realized that the destructive person in your life is a sociopath/psychopath - Get Away From That Person ASAP!

The sociopath is so good at making you believe that they are a "good" person with "good" intentions. Notice that it is their words that have convinced you. But look at their Actions. Do their words match up with their actions?

If the sociopath in your life is your wife, husband, boyfriend, girlfriend, or the mother or father of your child. Or even someone within your own family — you must walk away from this person and never look back. If you share children with this person, walking away and never looking back will not be as easy. You will need a plan. You will have to plan your escape before you leave. It's so important that you are documenting every word the sociopath says to you. Document it and have proof of it. You need to save all voicemails, text messages they send you that are threatening or abusive. 

In order to prove that you are in danger and scared for your life, and for the well being of your children – you must be able to show proof. 

**Sociopaths are very skilled in court, they know how to work the system, and they want to make the victim look like the unstable, neurotic, and crazy person. They usually tell so many lies, the victim ends up breaking down in court (this is exactly what the sociopath wanted the victim to do). The victim breaks down, because they are human.

While the sociopath remains calm, and looks on as if they are concerned for the person who they have systematically destroyed. The sociopath has vilified the victim. 

This is why it is so important NOT to tell your plans of leaving to anyone. If you have realized that the person you live with is a sociopath DO NOT tell them that you think they are a sociopath or psychopath! This could put your life in danger. 

Do not be concerned about hurting their feelings — a sociopath/psychopath cannot  be really “hurt” — they do not have the emotions to feel emotional pain or hurt, they are only able to feel RAGE AND ANGER and the need to destroy others..

You must accept that you mean nothing to the sociopath – and that you never meant anything to the sociopath. They see you as an object, not a human being with feelings, to them you are nothing. 

If the sociopath leaves you, BE THANKFUL! Pray to your Higher Power that they never try to contact you again. Unfortunately the sociopath  will always try to establish contact with you. They had control over you once and believe they can have control over you again. They don't try to come back because they missed you. They come back to dominate you and control you again.  

But you must BE STRONG and have no contact with them. You will need to change your phone number, and only give it to only a few people who you trust and are aware of the situation. 

A lot of times victims of sociopaths and psychopaths, want closure. Accept the fact that YOU WILL NEVER get CLOSURE WITH A SOCIOPATH.. If you find yourself thinking about “the good old days” you may have had with the sociopath. Remember that the sociopath was not the person you thought they were. The person you knew wasn't real. The words they told you were not real. Every word out of the sociopaths mouth is a lie. The "relationship" might have felt real, but it wasn't.  The sociopath only used you and manipulated you for their own sick reasons. It does hurts to think that this person you believed loved you, never really loved you.

The Only Way To Truly Heal From the Emotional Trauma that the sociopath has caused you, is to establish NO CONTACT!

This can be a very difficult thing to do, especially if you "want closure" but you must stop thinking that you will get closure. You will never get closure, the sociopath will not give you that, simply because they know you want it! 

Eventually though you will heal. The feelings you have of missing the sociopath will pass. The longer you have no contact with the sociopath, the sooner you will be able to heal, and find yourself again. You will become stronger everyday, because the sociopath is no longer in your life, influencing you in a negative way. Once you have made peace with YOURSELF, and LOVE yourself again — the tables will turn and the sociopath will no longer have any control on you. The hunted becomes becomes the hunter.. 

The amazing thing about Establishing No Contact, is that victim is able to feel liberation from the sociopath. The victim is able to re-build their self esteem. The victim becomes stronger and more confident everyday they do not talk to the sociopath. The victim will no longer feel like a “victim” but they begin to feel like a “survivor.”

Refusing to speak with, respond to text or emails, meet up with or listen to  anything the sociopath has to say can be extremely effective.

***NO CONTACT EVER AGAIN*** 

The best thing about having NO Contact is that you do not have to do anything to achieve results — and these results can change your life for the better. You are free from the pain, manipulation and the emotional abuse the sociopath caused you. You are free to Heal, Love, and Live... 

You also are free to Love again. Remember that you did not choose the sociopath. They chose you because of you kindness, caring and loving personality. Sociopaths can't appreciate any of that, all they saw was weakness. But you are not weak. You are an amazing person with so much to offer the world. Do not let the betrayal from the sociopath stop you from being who you were meant to be. There ARE good, kind and caring people out there. Don't lose faith in humanity because of one evil person you have encountered. See this all as a learning experience that has made you stronger.. 

More Cruel than they are Crazy

Sociopaths are more cruel than they are crazy. They know exactly what they are doing and what they are not doing. They are bat shit crazy — but they are not insane. (If that makes sense). 

They are aware of the pain and suffering that they cause. In fact they are intentionally causing it, and getting pleasure from doing it. They love to make people feel fear. It gives them a sense of empowerment. They are vicious, cruel, harsh, mean-spirited people. They have no real emotions. They are empty, soulless vultures...

Sociopaths aren't easy to spot. Most of the time the only people who recognize that the person is a sociopath or some other kind of disordered person, it is their family or spouse. 

Sociopaths have a way of covertly manipulating those around them to be quiet about their illegal and abusive behaviors. They try to tolerate the abuse and lies. They eventually get use to the sociopath leaving for hours, even days at a time, and the abuse and they try to ignore and act as if everything is ok. Because to confront a sociopath will start a war. And usually the spouse and family is so exhausted with the abuse and lies, they just turn the other cheek. 

It tasks something drastic for the victim to actually leave the sociopath. The sociopath will eventually leave the victim once they have drained the life out of you. And you serve no other purpose for them. 

Sociopaths do not care about anyone. 

It's best to Go No Contact with an ex who is a sociopath. They will do desperate things to in an attempt to get a responce. By responding they feel like they have won, and winning is EVERYTHING to them.

They will try to talk to you by text or phone. Your lack of response will cause them to be angry. After that doesn't work they will even try to be nice. (But you know that it is only temporary) once the sociopath gets what they want they go back go being assholes. 

Besides being mean and evil. Sociopaths are crazy-makers. They make the victim question if maybe they are going insane. But they are not. It is the sociopaths who are crazy. 

Sociopaths will try to convince others that their victim is crazy as well... By making up nasty lies about the person to everyone. Blatant lies. There is not even any true behind the lie. They just think of what scares them and then they accuse their victim of those exact things. I.e. – If a sociopath is stalking you, they will accuse you and there you are actually the stalker. 

I have been stalked by a sociopath. And currently still am being harassed, stalked and prank called frequently by a sociopath. It's not sorntbing that anyone wants to deal with but when you are a target of a sociopath. It is very hard to get them to leave you. Basically they usually have to find a new target in order for them to leave you alone. 

**And even then they may still become bored and decide to give you a call or send you a text message that makes no sense. Just to shake you up and bother you. (once you are use to the sociopath and are able to see through all their bullshit - their text messages and calls are just annoying)

Some people are totally unaware the person they are with is sociopath. They just think their partner is nucking futs! Or they are suffering from bi-polar disorder or some other mental illness. 

There are other people who end up believing that they are the one with the problem. They sociopath is such a skilled liar and manipulator – they can convince their partner that they are not the one who is sick, but it is the partner who has issues they need to work out. 

Here are few things to try and remember if you may suspect your partner is a sociopath or narcissist. 

• You constantly second-guess yourself.

•  You wonder frequently if you are a “good enough” partner.

• You have trouble making simple decisions.

•  You wonder, “Am I being too sensitive?” or "Am I over reacting?"

•  You think twice before bringing up innocent topics of conversation.

• You frequently make excuses for your partner’s behavior to friends and family.

• You actually start to think the constant criticism is ok, because you think, “What doesn’t kill me will make me stronger.”

• You feel as though you can’t do anything right

• Your kids start trying to protect you from being humiliated by your partner.

• You feel hopeless and joyless.

Everyone deserves to BE happy. Being with a narcissist or a sociopath you will never be happy. They are miserable human beings that are hard wired to destroy others. They cannot be fixed. They WILL NEVER CHANGE. No matter how much LOVE you show them, it will never be enough. They are unable to receive love. Unable to give love. All they really know how to do is lie, hurt, cheat, degrade, and cause chaos and pain.

The Female Sociopath Feels Threatened by Other Women

A female sociopath blends in like everyone else. Although female predators are the hardest to detect. They fly under the radar. Female sociopaths know that they have an advantage just because they are in fact female. Most people do not realize that the female sociopath is as vicious as the male sociopath. The female sociopath is much more dangerous than their male counterpart. Simply because as society we view woman as gentle kind mothers, caregivers, and nurturers. Most female sociopaths use this to their advantage, by playing the victim.

They portray themselves as caring and sympathetic, educated and worldy, rich and generous, and do-gooders... 

This couldn't be further from the Truth!

The truth is - Not all women are loving, caring mothers and caretakers. Evil within them exists.
This doesn't mean that we should assume that every woman is a horrible person, who manipulates, violates, and exploits others. It is important though that we are Aware that just because someone is a mother – DOES NOT MEAN THEY ARE LOVING AND GOOD PEOPLE.

A mentality of awareness helps us to be better prepared if we ever have to deal with someone who is devoid of a conscience and is seeking to gain our trust, in order to use us, exploit us and emotionally harm us. 

Sociopathic females convince others that they are wonderful, and caring mothers to their children. They try to convince  people that not only are they attentive mothers, but that they are also successful career women. They claim they can do it all! 

Oh how great they are and how supportive, loving and caring, and successful - always having their children's best interest at heart... (Yeah f*cking right) 

 

I have personally heard a female sociopath compare herself to a "mama bear" protecting her cubs. She made this statement when she was trying to ruin the reputation of her ex husband and his new wife. The female sociopath knows that children are innocent – this is why she so often brings the children into her conflicts and drama. She believes by exploiting the innocence of children will give her the upper hand.  By comparing herself to a “mama bear protecting her cubs” she is trying to portray herself as a mother that is genuinely concerned for her children – this could not be further from the truth. 

The sociopathic mother believes she is entitled just because she was able to bear a child. {for God's sake -Mosquitos reproduce - it is not that hard to become pregnant) 

Female sociopaths will use her children for her own selfish purposes and to torment and control her husband or ex husband. She obtains information from the children about their father, only to use any information against him later. When she is unable to find any wrong he is doing, she just makes up lies and will use tiny truths, and twist and distort them, so she looks like the hero and her ex husband looks like a shit dad who neglects his children.  

She will “brainwash” the children that their dad is “bad” and that he has chosen his “new family” and (new wife) over them... 

She makes sure that the children never make any emotionally connection with their dad. The children are unable to open up and bond with their father and a new step mother and any new step siblings they may have. The sociopathic mother brainwashes her children to believe that they are not as loved at their fathers home, as they are at her home. She does this in a pathetic attempt to control her ex husband and his relationship with his children. If and when the man decides to remarry, the sociopathic female will also attempt to control her ex-husbands new wife as well. 

The sociopathic female/mother is always in a competition with others (especially other women). Most of the time the other people are UNAWARE that they this competition is even going on.  

The female sociopath is so insecure of her own mothering, she feels threatened by the fact that her children will have a new step mother. She knows that even though she portrays herself to everyone as “mommy of the year” — she knows that she is often absent and uninvolved in her childrens lives. She neglects them, and sends them to stay with family and friends, she is too selfish and does not want to be bothered with having to take care of the children's basic needs and any demands.

The new woman who marries the female sociopaths ex husband, poses as a huge threat. The sociopathic woman has been controlling her ex husband before they were divorced and continues to control him - Even after they are divorced. 

The female sociopath knows that a new woman entering the picture could threaten the control she maintains over her ex husband. Which means all the extra money she manipulates her ex to give her - may stop.

So what does the female sociopath do about this? 

She goes on a rampage of false accusations, she will make up blatant lies about the new wife to her children's teachers at school  and people who her ex is friends with.  The sociopathic woman uses defamation and slander, and she will attempt to psychologically destroy and ruin the relationship between her ex and his new wife. {If the new woman is strong and secure - the sociopath will be unsuccessful, but the new woman will be put through hell first}

The female sociopath knows that a new wife will not tolerate her antics and will refuse to be controlled by a crazy ex wife. The new wife will put an end to any extra money given to the crazy ex wife. 

{The female sociopath has caused so much chaos and created drama so long that her ex husband is exhausted and will give her what she wants just for her to shut up and leave him alone for a few days} He is desperate to have his psychotic ex wife OUT OF HIS LIFE. Having children together makes that hard, but he will eventually find a way to make her non-existent in his life. Paying her off seems to buy him a few days of calm from her psychotic rage. 

Doing the Devils Dirty Work

There are normal people who manipulate, but it isn't an evil type of manipulation. As human beings we do things we aren't always proud of. But normal human beings will usually feel bad about manipulating someone or lying to someone they care about. 

This is Not the case with the Sociopath. They have NO shame or guilt. They don't feel bad or remorseful for the horrific pain they cause others. Sociopathic manipulators are pathological liars. They NEVER TELL THE TRUTH. They Do Not even know the truth anymore, because lying so much more familiar to them.  Sociopaths withholding import at information from people. Sociopaths deny that they are ever responsible for causing pain or lying. They will Always find an excuse or justify what they did or they blatantly deny it. 

Sociopaths are notorious for playing the victim. If they are confronted they may pretend to be confused, or they try to convince the person that is confronting them that his or her tactics are intended to help because they are very concerned. It's all a bunch of bullshit.  

Sociopathic Manipulators frequently use gas-lighting. They love provoking someone, just to get an angry reaction out of them, then the sociopath will  blame the victim and tell them and other that the 'victim' is acting crazy and is unstable because of their reaction. The sociopath will proclaim that they are the victim of this angry person. When in reality the sociopath has been pushing the persons buttons and provoking them to react.

As normals human beings, we can only take so much poking at us, harassing, slandering, provoking before we do react. After all WE ARE HUMAN... 

The sociopath may look human on the outside, but inside they act nothing like a human being that God intended. They act more like a product made by Satan himelf. Sociopaths seem to be working for satan. Doing the devils dirty work. They are puppets for satan. They are skilled abusers. Sociopathic individuals exploit the trust they have gained through deception.

Sociopaths are very much like venomous snakes... 

Plain and simple — Sociopaths are bad people. They will always be bad people. They will never change. Their brain is dysfunctional. They are deprived of the very thing that makes us human – COMPASSION. 

Sociopaths — HAVE NO COMPASSION for anyone. They will destroy whoever it is they feel is a threat to their situation by slandering, mocking and ostracizing their victim. A sociopaths harassment is not violent, but it is covert and persistent 

Sociopathic men tend to be physically abusive as well as emotionally abusive. 

Female sociopaths on the other hand, portray themselves to be kind and caring and helpful, and are rarely violent. But the abuse and emotional scars they inflict on their victim is so damaging, that some never heal from it.

The lucky ones sometimes are able to get out of the clutches of the sociopath and can overcome the pain and abuse they have suffered at the hands of the sociopath.

Those people live to tell their story and to help others who are victims. They become stronger, and make others aware of the "sociopaths" among us. How sociopaths operate. These people are not victims of the sociopath anymore... They are Survivors 

The Dysfunctional Brain of the Sociopath

The sociopaths brain does not function “normally”. Somewhere  along the path of development, a sociopath's brain ceases to grow. Instead of the circuitry inside her/his brain getting excited about learning something new. Basically the circuitry opts out.

A lot of people believe sociopaths are very intelligent. WRONG. Sociopaths are not any smarter than anyone else.  In fact their brains are defective and do not develop normally, they lack intuition, compassion, and the ability to rationally think. At about the age of 15 it is apparent that the sociopath is different from the rest of us. 

The reason a sociopath excels in certain areas is because of their lack of a conscience, lack of remorse and they have no moral or ethical values. So when they have to study (say for the bar exam) that's all they are thinking about. They are not worrying about their relationships, their family or friends. Because they do not have the ability to love or care about anyone's well being. So they can become super focused. 

So later on in a sociopaths life when they decide to target someone who doesn't kiss their ass, thats all that they do. 

They solely focus on destroying their victim. They are not focusing on their children or family or bills (stuff normal people worry with daily)

Sociopaths aren't concerned at all with these things. 

Have you ever heard "no one can destruct the will of a sociopath" or "you can't beat a sociopath". That maybe true, if you are a victim of a sociopath. Because the sociopath is thinking of ways to destroy you 24/7. 

While you are busy working, being a mother or father to your children, taking care of household things, paying bills, living life. 

THE SOCIOPATH IS NOT DOING ANY OF THAT. 

The sociopath doesn't care about paying bills, or caring for their children or checking in with loved ones. The sociopath ONLY cares about revenge and creating chaos and drama.

The sociopath will attempt to convince others they are mommy/daddy of the year, they will pretend to try to be a busy busy busy little bee - doing so much for everyone! They are telling others how they are working hard, and paying bills, they are the PTA mom, the volunteer, the caretake of everyone. And they are pretty damn convincing. 

But it IS ALL LIES, yep LIES... THEY ARE NOT BUSY DOING ANYTHING FOR ANYONE. ITS ALL A FACADE.  They put on this fake persona in order to look like the Successful Business woman, Suzie Homemaker, and A loving Daughter/son to their parents. That way other people will not see the evil, back stabbing person, ruthless person they really are. 

The only people who really know how heartless and evil the sociopath — are people who are unfortunate enough to have to know the sociopath. Like the sociopaths parents, siblings, spouses, and children.  

The sociopath’s brain is not advanced in anyway. In fact scientific studies show that the sociopath/psychopaths brain did not develop as a normal brain should. 

As a result, the sociopath almost never grows up. They never emotionally grow. Their whole life is basically a lie. They always will blame others for problems they created. They will never see how their actions and behaviors is why they are dysfunctional. In some regards they are a Large Evil Child. 

Sociopaths are cowards. They run away - regardless of age. This childish and deceptive behavior is one of the reasons why so many victims of the sociopath, will initially think that the sociopath may have an inability to communicate effectively & assume that the sociopath’s behavior comes from a lack of life experiences.  

Before a victim of a sociopath discovers that the person they are dealing with is actually a sociopath. The victim assumes the sociopath is very rigid in her/his thinking because she/he has never been in a situation where she/he has had to consider another persons feelings or a group of people. 

Being empathetic human beings (unlike the sociopath), we set aside our frustrations, and instead, we feel pity for this person who seems to have been living in a protective bubble their entire lives. We have a hard time believing that some people are just plain evil, hateful, and cold. The sociopath is just that...

People with fully functioning brains, who feel empathy and compassion for all forms of life — THEY WANT TO BELEIVE THAT OTHERS ARE AS GOOD and COMPASSIONATE as they are. It is hard for “good” people to accept that a person we know and that we have allowed in our life is definitively just a “Bad Person” 

But unfortunately their are people out there (more than you think) that are mentally defective and are unable to feel compassion, love, and concern for humans and any other forms of life. 

Sociopaths will always make life as difficult and as miserable as possible. They will NEVER change. They will always create chaos. They are Pathological Liars, Cheaters, and Con's..

Once they decide to target you and you become their victim. They will spend hours on the phone spreading lies and false gossip about you - in order to destroy you and ruin your reputation. THEY ACTUALLY BECOME OBSESSED WITH YOU. THEY ARE OBSESSED WITH EVERYTHING YOU DO. They will stalk you, PRANK CALL YOU, make up lies about you. THEN THEY WILL TURN AROUND AND ACCUSE YOU OF DOING ALL OF THAT TO THEM. 

So how do you cope with an obsessive stalking sociopath. YOU TALK TO YOUR FRIENDS AND FAMILY. Let them know what is going on. Tell them everything, detail for detail. That is how I personally got through being stalked and harassed 24/7 by a sociopath. And the craziest thing is that my sociopath is still trying to harass me just on a covert level. Ex - has made up a Facebook page in a family members name and requested all the people I am friends with. The funny thing is, a few of my good friends went ahead and excepted the friend request, just to see what she has up her sleeve next. EVERYONE IS AWARE OF THE "fake" FACEBOOK PAGE. And it has just confirmed to us that this person is even more unstable than we had thought. 

The sociopath does not attain a rite of passage like the rest of us. She cheats her way into adulthood, because the sociopath spends her teenage years regressing mentally and emotionally....

Knowledge is our best defense

More than likely if you are reding this, you have been or currently are a victim of a evil sociopath. I know, because I have also been targeted by a sociopath. My life was turned upside down, my self esteem was broken, and I became someone I did not even recognize anymore. 

When you are targeted by a sociopath you do not enter the relationship or friendship looking for the "red flags" of a sociopath. But after knowing the sociopath for a small time, you began noticing that something is just not right about the person. Unfortunatley by the time you realize what you are dealing with it is usually too late...

Knowledge is the best defense we can have against the sociopath. Living Well and Moving forward is the best revenge we can have on the sociopath. 

Most people initially feel hurt, confused and devastated after realizing the person they have been with for however long, was lying the entire relationship. After the hurt wears off some, Anger starts setting in. How dare them do this to us. We realize that they wasted a period of out lives that WE WILL NEVER GET BACK. So we want Revenge. But getting revenge on a person with No morals, No conscience and no limits to what they are capable of doing to you is not a good idea. 

Sociopaths are destructive. They will destroy anyone. And for no reason. Makes are NOT the only sociopaths out there. Females can be sociopaths as well – they are much harder to spot. They could be the soccer mom, PTA mom, they cause so much pain in lives and go undetected for years and years. 

Sociopaths and the Dark Triads

The book "Mask of Sanity" by Hervey M Cleckley, title says it all. Sociopaths and psychopaths wear a “mask of sanity”. With the mask on they look completely sane, and normal. But once the mask if removed, underneath there is a person who is psychotic, evil, deceptive, and basically criminally insane. 

Everywhere a sociopath goes, they leave a trail of destructive behind them. They are home wreckers, theives, liars, cheaters, and trolls. They are desperate people, always in search of their next "victim".  They cause harm in ever way to their victim. One way they hide behind their mask and wreak chaos and havoc in others, is by using modern technology. With the internet, they have a fake persona (one they can make up or impersonate) to deceive, lie and slander whoever they want. Their goal when slandering and spreading lies and rumors is to attempt to ruin the reputation of their victim. They want their target to "react". Once the target reacts, the sociopath plays victim. As if they have no clue why a person is saying these things about them online. So once a person reacts, they have played right into the sociopaths trap. 

Information found on www.slate.com -

Erin Buckels of the University of Manitoba and two colleagues, sought to directly investigate whether people who engage in trolling are characterized by personality traits that fall in the so-called Dark Tetrad: 

Machiavellianism willingness to manipulate and deceive others

Narcissism egotism and self-obsession

Psychopathy the lack of remorse and empathy and sadism – pleasure in the suffering of others.

It is hard to overplay the results: The study found correlations, sometimes quite significant, between these traits and trolling behavior. 

Erin Buckles found that simply asking survey participants what they “enjoyed doing most” when on online comment sites, offering five options: “debating issues that are important to you,” “chatting with others,” “making new friends,” “trolling others,” and “other.” The different responses about these Internet commenting preferences matched up with responses to questions designed to identify Dark Tetrad traits: and the results found a relationship between all Dark Tetrad traits (except for narcissism) and the overall time that an individual spent, per day, commenting on the Internet.

Here’s how different responses about these Internet commenting preferences matched up with responses to questions designed to identify Dark Tetrad traits:

Only 5.6 % of survey respondents actually specified that they enjoyed “trolling” By contrast, 41.3 % of Internet users were “non-commenters”, meaning they didn’t like engaging online at all. So trolls are, as has often been suspected, a minority of online commenters, and an even smaller minority of overall Internet users.

The researchers conducted multiple studies, using samples from Amazon’s Mechanical Turk but also of college students, to try to understand why the act of trolling seems to attract this type of personality. They even constructed their own survey instrument, which they dubbed the Global Assessment of Internet Trolling, or GAIT, containing the following items:

• I have sent people to shock websites for the lulz.

• I like to troll people in forums or the comments section of websites.

• I enjoy griefing other players in multiplayer games.

• The more beautiful and pure a thing is, the more satisfying it is to corrupt.

And again, doing so was correlated with sadism in its various forms, with psychopathy, and with Machiavellianism. Overall, the authors found that the relationship between sadism and trolling was the strongest, and that indeed, sadists appear to troll because they find it pleasurable. “Both trolls and sadists feel sadistic glee at the distress of others,” they wrote. Sadists just want to have fun, and the Internet is their playground! www.slate.com ___________________________________

Sociopaths have no conscience. They never feel guilt. They don't get sad when someone dies (they may pretend to be sad if the person who died may possibly leave them some kind of inheritance). A sociopaths brain is wired differently to the point where they cannot feel empathy.  Sociopaths are excelled liars. They manipulate, and fool people. The BTK serial killer's arrest shocked nearly everyone who knew him. With very few exceptions (some people saw he had a "dark side" and had the unfortunate oppurtunity to experience it). But for the most part, people saw a kind, charming man. His wife of 34 years had no idea that her husband was a psychopath. After his arrest she divorced him and his kids disowned him. He was arrested in 2005 and is serving life in prison.

Sociopaths cannot be rehabilitated. Sociopaths are born without a conscience, and from a very early age often do horrible things like abuse animals. Brain scans have shown that different regions of their brains light up when they see horrific images

Sociopaths have a psychotic personality, whose behavior is said to be antisocial, but the sociopaths I have dealt with are not anti social, but they blend in and look just like us. They want and need people to think they are "good" people. So they will lie and tell others that they donate to many charity's. Sociopathic mothers will exclaim how "her kids are everything to her, she loves them so much and can't live without them!" even though behind close doors she never pays attention to them, she never does anything that will be beneficial to the child that is healthy. Like maintaining boundaries, having rules they must follow, stucture (that all children need and actually want from a defective parent) The sociopath is screwed all up, so it's not even realistic for one to believe that the sociopathic parent would do what is "right" for her children. REMEMBER THE SOCIOPATH HAS NO MORALS, ETHICS, OR COMMON SENSE – nor do they care to have any.

It's very important to the sociopath to convince you that they can be trusted. They need you trust them because it makes it much easier for them to get what they want out of you, drain you mentally, physically and financially. After they have sucked you dry, they no longer need you anymore. So they discard you like garbage. But not before ripping your life to shreds and leaving you traumatized. The sociopath is gone before you even know what hit you..

Sociopaths do not see other human beings as thinking and feeling, they don’t see anything wrong with this behavior. They are very selfish and do whatever they can to get what they want, so whatever it takes – murder, cheating, lying – they do without any regret.

Sociopaths will never take responsiblity for anythjng.  They do not learn from experience. They Will NEVER change.           

Sociopaths like to feel in control. They like to control people they consider lesser and insignificant human beings. They mentally “torture” everyone they think is smarter or better than them. It gives them a sense of victory or achievement, to be able to break someone who is "talented" or "successful" down. 

Evil evil evil - sociopath

Normal people attack for natural reasons,  like revenge or retaliation. This is not the case with the sociopath. They simply attack people who possess something they want.  The sociopath believes that everything belongs to him/her, that he/she is entitled to it. And if someone has a little of it, then she's not getting all of it. The sociopath wants IT ALL. The  sociopath doesn't want to charge anything.  Pathological greed, entitlement, and lying are what makes the sociopath a dangerous predator. They are forever out to take, keep from, destroy and damage the reputation of whoever or  whatever they can get their dirty paws on: be it your job, you home, your relationships, your children, or your reputation.

It is pure malevolence and hatred to want to damage the most valuable possessions of another. It is their lack of moral character that makes them  be hostile to anyone getting what makes them happy and feel good about themselves. And, it is beyond sick to have feel ill will and hate  toward people who aren’t harming you, have never harmed you, and have never threatened to harm you. Sociopaths and psychopaths are pure evil. Just look at who they target: vulnerable children, people who love them, family, and the innocent.

The dysfunctional sociopath is bat shit crazy

Adults with a history of lying, chaotic relationships, and numerous divorces  usually are very skilled deniers and manipulators. They have an arrogant manner and may prove to have a lifetime of success with manipulation and lying. Behind their fake words and facial expression actually lies a deep contempt and jealousy for others, who they regard as inferior. They hate anyone who has good personal boundaries, moral values and refuse to be disrespectful. 

These skilled liars give mental illness a bad name. Just because someone can lie well does not mean she's a supremely intelligent individual. 

It means she is a dysfunctional, spiteful abusive person. Those highly effective techniques for manipulation are a natural part of who she is.

She is simply a bad person with bad intentions 

The sociopath makes the victim feel a sense of powerlessness, fear, and dependency. Verbal and emotional abuse amplifies these emotions, and they become stronger and stronger over time. Until the victim has no fight left. No life left. The victim is drained and exhausted. The sociopath enjoys destroying the victim. She wants power and destroying others makes her feel powerful. Reality is though she is insecure and weak. And has no power over anyone 

Sociopaths and Identity Theft, Cyberstalking, Slander

IDENTITY THEFT

Identity theft happens when someone steals your personal information and uses it without your permission. It’s a serious crime that can wreak havoc with your finances, credit history, and reputation — someone impersonating you can cause you stress, embarrassment and anger. This can all take up a lot of your time, money, and patience to resolve. Sociopaths are notorious for identity theft. They usually steal the identity of a family member, knowing they can do this because the family member will not pursue criminal charges against them. 

CYBERSTALKING

When the sociopath is cyber stalking or impersonating you online it can be scary and you may feel your reputation and life is in danger.  The sociopath goes beyond the annoying activities of a troll.  They try to destroy peoples lives and derive satisfaction from the pain and suffering they inflict on others. Sociopaths are really sick and dangerous people.

Of course there are other sad pathetic individuals including trolls and cyber bullies that are not sociopaths, but just mentally disturbed individuals. Some of them confine themselves to one site and just like to stir people up.  They enjoy the attention and reaction they get from others. But it is a crime and even a felony in some states to impersonate someone online in order to defraud others or destroy someone's reputation. 

DEFAMATION AND SLANDER 

Sociopaths fly into a psychotic rage if confronted about defamation and slander also know as a "smear campaign". A smear campaigner will try to make others think they are good people who are rightfully standing up against online bullying and supposed immorality or abuse. Sociopaths try to ostracize their victims and make them feel alone, unpopular, and unsupported by others by accusing them of heinous acts - that the sociopath him/herself is guilty of.. Women who are sociopaths, narcissists and psychopaths are more likely to commit defamation of character than men.

Most sociopaths simply want what they want and anyone who doesn't give in to their manipulation and covert intimidation will punished by them. The sociopath will unleash a torrent of phony martyrdom and vicious slander all about you and how you are the "crazy" one, and how you have stalked them and slandered them. They always are the victim. *redflag - someone who is always the victim of someone else. 

Lies of the smear campaigner include statements and insinuations that you are mentally ill, incompetent, untrustworthy, irrational, or unreasonable. The smear campaigner does this so that if your legitimate upset shows, the observer will attribute it to irrationality, ill intent, or instability, and not to a normal reaction to mistreatment.

 

This is how they operate and how they are hard wired to be. They do not ever change.

Socio/psychopaths lack empathy and moral values. They have no problem using dirty tricks or telling nasty lies about you to get the upper hand and they have no remorse when they cause suffering to others.

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The Borderline Psychopath

The female sociopath can be the most difficult and exhausting of personality disordered women to deal with. "Borderline psychopath" is usually the diagnosis a psychiatrist will give to the female sociopath. Female sociopaths are much more spiteful, vindictive and manipulation than their male counterpart. Women are 3 times more likely to be diagnosed as a “borderline psychopath” than men. 

Borderline psychopaths are mean, conniving, hateful, vengeful, superficial, ruthless and dangerous. They are the like sociopaths, having no conscience, no remorse, and no empathy for life, but the borderline psychopath is worse. 

They want to be in control and are demanding. Most of them are attention seekers. Any relationship (lovers, family or the few friends the sociopath may have) are constantly having to deal with the consequences of “knowing” this unstable & unpredictable woman. They create problems, they stir up drama, and they never take responsibility for their behaviors. 

Female sociopaths are relentless, they will tear the victim to shreds given over time. Their goal is destroy the persons self esteem, and confidence. So that they can more easily control and influence their victim.

It's very hard to deal with these types. The best way is to not deal with them. Be courteous if you were to see them, but limite any contact with them. If they are trying to contact you, they will use any strategy they can think of to get you to respond. If you have children with this person (God bless your soul) then you can expect them to make up lies about the children to try to guilt you to respond to them. *Remember most everything they tell you will BE A LIE, it's just a desperate attempt to get you to talk to them*. Why? 

Because it's all about control. If you are limiting your contact with the borderline psychopath. They are not in control of you. They want to have that control of you. Either because at one time they had that control, and they feel you are a possession they rightfully own. They don't see you as a human being. But more as an object to be used to their expense. The best thing for you to do is ignore them and have little to No contact with them. This doesn't necessarily mean they will leave you alone, a good friend of mine still receives 10-20 text messages a day from his borderline psyhotic ex wife. And he hasn't responded in over 2 years. Yet her relentlessness and desperation continues. Everything from one of the kids have depression due to his lack of responding, to cancer. Yet he does not fight with her, he just refuses to be manipulated and controlled. From the kids point of view they would never see their parents fighting. The borderline psychopath has more than likely told the children that their father will not get along with her and she is trying so hard to get along with him - poor poor victim - she is always the victim. When the reality is, he is simply limiting his contact. The borderline psychopath will try every trick she can to get a response. 

The borderline psychopath and the sociopathic female will spread all kinds of lies and nasty rumors (this is something she is notorious for) and she has usually been doing this since  childhood.  She is an accomplished liar and professional cheater, she is always looking for the easier road to travel (she is lazy). Her kind of personality does not know anything about honesty. They have perfected conniving and manipulation with a malicious intent. 

Female sociopaths have an uncanny ability to find a character flaw in their target that can be exploited to destroy whoever they feel is a threat to their control and power. 

Women are usually more co-operative and caring. But not the female sociopath (borderline psychopath). They do not feel any empathy towards their victims. They do not feel bad about bullying and destroying people. They are seeking dominance and control. Women are usually mothers, nurturers and caregivers. Not the female sociopath.

Many people do not realize how emotionally and mentally damaging this particular type of woman can be. She is cold hearted and ruthless, while pretending to be so compassionate. She will always tell her sad story. Like how her mother neglected her as a child, and her ex husband was an abusive alcoholic who took advantage of her kindness. If you think you might be dealing with one of these women, watch how she claims to be the victim of everyone else, but notice how aggressive she is going about it. 

Real Victims are not aggressive and vengeful. Real victims are focused on how they heal from the abuse they suffered. They are not looking for pity or retribution. Real victims are looking for peace of mind and recovery. Real victims rarely talk about how they were abused, and rarely mention their abusers name. 

While the borderline psychopath is looking to defame and destroy the reputation of their victim by vilifying them and accusing them of heinous and horrific behaviors. Usually the borderline psychopath will accuse their victim of acts that they themselves are guilty of. I.E. — stalking, cyber bullying, obsession, verbal abuse, impersonation, character assassination, etc.... 

Female Sociopaths are difficult to spot because most of them are incredibly good at hiding their true self and their motives. It is really difficult to believe the extent that the sociopath will go to, in order to destroy their target. The dirty tricks and unproven rumors that female sociopath/borderline psychopath  regularly uses against their victims can be devastating. 

The female sociopath is an out of control individual, she manipulates and punishes at will. Unfortunately the female sociopath is described as the vindictive or alienating abusive ex-wife. Who uses the children to manipulate and control her ex-husband. The children are passed around to relatives and friends like a rag doll, in order to keep them away from their father, only so the sociopath can say what a shit father he is. Until the sociopath gets what she wants she will use her children against their father, in another desperate attempt to gain control over him. 

Unfortunately this does not end when the children are of legal age, the female sociopath will still try to use them against her ex-husband, even when they are adults. Most cases I have seen either end with the adult children seeing what their mother is doing and eventually they will refuse to have anymore contact with her.  Or sadly, they fall into the trap the mother has set, and the father has no relationship with his adult children. 

The children who take the side of  their sociopathic mother can end up as crazy as she is. On a positive note, the father usually ends up ok, despite a few psychological wounds (that can be healed). He has dealt with this raging lunatic for decades. He has been insulted, manipulated, and verbally abused by her. It usually comes as no surprise to him that his ex has turned his children against him. The man has usually remarried a supportive, and caring woman (opposite of his psychopathic ex-wife). He is able to move forward and accept the situation that his vindictive ex-wife has created. He is able to accept the loss, because he is emotionally mature enough to realize that there is NOTHING he can do to change anything.  The ex has lied and brainwashed the children for years. He is just too physically & emotionally exhausted. He has no fight left.   So he chooses to invest the little energy he has left on his current family. He usually can see that fighting with a borderline psychopath (his ex) is useless. She is evil, and she wants him to pay (as if he hasn't paid enough, when she cheated and lied to him for years). 

She is so delusional that after playing the victim for so long she actually believes she is the victim. Trait of a truly psychotic and dangerous woman.